Que Sera Sera

At this stage of my life, I’m at a crossroad. When we’re at the crossroad, doubts and/or worries could easily creep in due to uncertainties that come with it. Que Sera Sera is what my friend told me. In English, it means “Whatever will be, will be”. That line is awakening in a sense that we have worries of uncertainty because we are afraid of having the outcomes that we don’t like or want. But as the wise man says, future is uncertain. Sometimes, the problem is not the uncertainty itself, but it’s how we deal with it.

Why it’s so hard for us to do the best we can now without worrying about the outcomes in the future? Well, I think it’s because we in general are afraid of failure. But if I ask you, why failure is so scary? Why do we see failure is something bad? You may say, it hurts when we fail. But we forget the beauty failure entails. Failure comes with lessons to learn, and sometimes it’s subjective and relative. For some, failure could mean having a 70% result of an exam. But for some, failure could mean something like losing a job. So it’s subject to personal’s perspectives and expectations. So when something turns out to be below our expectation, we consider it as a failure.

However have we ever turned around and see the failure as a something more positive/beautiful? I’d like to see a half full glass instead of half empty, but doesn’t mean that my eyes are blinded by the reality. By accepting what really happens (e.g., losing a job) and see any opportunity behind the event, we may see some light in the dark! Yet if we are caught up in this cloud of being a failure, we won’t be able to see what could become our benefit.

Again, as I said I’m at a crossroad in my life. This could be a turning point – but one thing that I’m certain…. no matter what’s the outcome, I don’t want to lose my “heart” (ie Citta/Dhamma). Things could turn sour or bad, but as long as I’m in touch with my heart, I know I will be ok. So…. Que Sera Sera (Whatever will be, will be).

May you all be well and happy.

PS: Click here for an inspiring video on Failure by J.K. Rowling. Hope it could inspire you!

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