LOVE

I received an email from a friend, and would like to share with y’all.

The email I received was in Indonesian, so the one I write is the translation of it.

I hope the meaning would still be intact.

Four people you’ll meet in your life

Life is a process of finding love, everyone would need to find four people in his life:

1st person: yourself,

2nd person: the one you really love,

3rd person: the one that really loves you,

4th person: the one that you’ll spend the rest of your life with.

In life, first of all you’ll meet someone you really love and you’ll learn what love is. Because you already knew what love feels like, you would be able to find a person who really loves you. After you’ve felt how it feels to love and be loved, you will know what you really want. Then you will find someone who is compatible with you, the one that you’ll spend the rest of your life with.

Sadly, in reality, the three persons are not of the same one.

The person you love the most doesn’t love you.

The one who loves you the most is not the person you love the most.

And the person whom you want to spend your life with is not the person you love the most and not the person who loves you the most. S/he is the one who you find at the right time and conditions.

Then, which one are you in other’s life?

No one deliberately changes his/her feeling.
At times when s/he loves you, s/he really loves you.
But at times when s/he doesn’t love you, then it s/he really doesn’t love you anymore.
When s/he loves you, s/he can’t fake it.
Same thing, when s/he doesn’t love you anymore, s/he can’t fake it either.

When someone doesn’t love you anymore and wants to leave you, you should ask yourself whether you still love him/her.
If it turns out that you don’t love him/her anymore too, then don’t hold him/her for the sake of your pride.
If you still love him/her, you should pray for his/her happiness and hope that s/he could be with someone who s/he really loves, and not to hold him/her back.
If you hold him/her back to find his/her happiness with the person s/he really loves, it shows that you don’t love the person anymore.
And if you don’t love him/her, what is your right to blame his/her change of heart?

LOVE is not to possess. If you like the moon, you can’t just grab it and put it into a bucket. But it still shines for you. In other words, when you love someone, you can’t use other way to have him/her. Let him/her be the permanent memory in your life.

If you really love someone, you should love him/her for whoever s/he is. Love his/her goods and bads.
With the reason you love him/her, you can’t wish to be someone you like him/her to be. If s/he can’t be the person you like, then you don’t love him/her anymore?

When you really love someone, you can’t find a reason why you love him/her. You only know that anytime and wherever, at good times or bad times, you always want to be together with him/her.

True love is when 2 persons could go through bad times without asking for a promise or conditions. In a relationship, you have to try and give time, not to be the receiver always. Being separated from each other is a test, if your relationship is not strong, you would admit defeat. True love never turns into hatred.

When two people fall in love, they like to make promise and vow. Why they are asking for vow and promise? Because they don’t trust each other. Promise and vow is of no benefit — people may vow that “until the the ocean is dry, my love won’t fade away”. Everyone knows that the ocean would never dry, yet if it happens, are we still alive?

Be careful with promises, don’t promise something that you can’t keep, don’t promise upon something that would never happen. Since it won’t happen, then it is harmless if you say it out. Remember, promise for something that would never happen hurts the most. In a relationship, what you say is one thing, and what you do is another thing.

When I read this, I thought this article is written by someone out of his/her experience. It holds some truth, even though I don’t agree 110% But the essence of the story is quite true…. Hope you are happy in your relationships. Relationship is never easy, it takes two tango.