Attitude

I want to share this with you all ~~ I got this article from an email sent to me. 🙂

A wise woman woke up one morning,
looked in the mirror,
and noticed she had only three hairs on her head.
‘Hmmm’ she thought, ‘I think today I’ll braid my hair’.
So she did and she had a wonderful day.

The next day she woke up,
looked in the mirror
and saw that she had only two hairs on her head.
‘H-M-M,’ she said,
‘I think I’ll part my hair down the middle today.’
So she did and she had a grand day.

The next day she woke up,
looked in the mirror and noticed
that she had only one hair on her head.
‘Well,’ she said, ‘today I’m going
to wear my hair in a pony tail.’
So she did, and she had a fun, fun day.

The next day she woke up,
looked in the mirror and noticed
that there wasn’t a single hair on her head.
‘YAY!’ she exclaimed.
‘I don’t have to fix my hair today!’

Attitude is everything.

Be kinder than necessary,
for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle .
Live simply,

It’s about learning to dance in the rain

Complaints

Have you ever complained about life, or heard others complaining?

I guess complaint is really common in our lives — we tend to complain on things we don’t like. We push away things we don’t like. It’s natural.

But when you listen to others’ complaints constantly… what you feel? You start to complain about the complaints! Yeah…. inevitable, ya?

I listened to this talk by Ajahn Brahm, it is an eye-opener. Well, we are living in a conditioned environment, as the nature itself is conditioned. So yeah, so many conditions interplay in our lives, and sometimes most of them are beyond our control. Yet for example, when we don’t like the job we are doing as a clerk, for example, we think that I’d be happy if I change my job to become a retailer. Indeed you’ll get rid off your suffering as a clerk, but you would have another form of suffering, the suffering of a retailer.

Then if we think that way, regardless of what conditions and environment we are in, we would still have suffering, only in different forms.

So all in all, what really matters is our attitude. What should we do in that situation, are we being negative or positive about it? Some outward conditions (i.e., conditions surround you) are hard to change — in other words, it’s hard to change others and the world. But it is easier and doable to change yourself, the conditions within.

So next time, when you face difficulties in your life, instead of blaming and complaining others or your environment, pause for awhile, and look within. See what you can do about in that situation or conditions, and think what’s the best attitude within you that you can have. There is a wise saying “The world is seen through your own specs”. So when you put on positive specs, you would see life is more positive. And vice versa. So it’s your choice…. complaining or living along with it.

What’s happened?

Today while I was walking in a isle at an oriental shop, I overheard the conversation between the owner and his supplier. They were talking something about Tibet and world politics which I didn’t really listen to, so basically I didn’t know what they were really talking about. But for sure the tone of the conversation wasn’t so exciting or happy, it was something bad I presumed.

So it gets me thinking — all these world issues surround us: politics, economics, regulations, nature, etc – are mostly beyond our control [i.e., we can’t control it, we only can influence to some extent]. Yet if they affect us negatively, for sure it ain’t a good news. So what we can do? They are beyond our control but at the same time we are not happy with it. So I guess, don’t put your finger on the conditions/situation, but on yourself. It’s all about the attitude that matters. Have you ever met someone who is always serene and happy regardless the changes surround him/her? If you have, you should learn from the person. S/he doesn’t blame the conditions, but instead could see the positives in every chaos.

Your attitudes in life determines the quality of your lives. Remember, you see the world with your own perspective — so by changing the way you perceive the world you also change the way you see your life. 🙂